Why do I have grit in some areas of my life but not in others? 

What an awesome question this week! This sort of threw me for a loop, I’m not going to lie. I did research on this because I had my own feelings on it. I went to Angela Duckworth‘s website who wrote the book Grit. She said that it’s good to think about what grit is not. She says grit isn’t talent, it isn’t luck, and it’s not how intensely for the moment you want something. Instead she goes on to explain that it’s about one or a few goals in your life that matter to you so much that nothing could make you quit. So when we look at her definition of that and what grit isn’t, it’s okay to be “gritty” in some areas of your life but not be as “gritty” in other areas. 

Another way to think of this is, say you’re wanting to pursue your Master’s, or PHD. Either route will require a significant amount of time, and a significant amount of studying. So if you’re pursuing something like that, you wouldn’t want to add an expertise in playing guitar on top of that. You don’t want to spread yourself too thin. Being “gritty” is really channeling your focus on those few things or few goals in life that really matter. These goals are backed by a very strong WHY. 

I hope this helps answer the question! Don’t get down on yourself if you’re not as “gritty” in some areas of your life as you are in others. Break it down. We all have a few goals in our lives that really matter the most. If you’re struggling to come up with that, ask yourself why! Keep going back to that “why” question. Ask yourself why you’re doing something, then ask why again and again. That will help you to reveal your true motivation, and then your grit comes in as the discipline to get you there. 

Keep the questions coming! Have a great week!

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